3 Basic Rules of Social Media Plus 5 Best Practices

3 Basic Rules of Social Media Plus 5 Best Practices
Dan Zarrella, author of The Science of Marketing, said in his book, “I’ve long been interested in the idea that engaging in conversation is the single most important function of social media marketing.”

He’s right. That is why it’s so important to schedule time in the afternoon or early evening to converse with our readers, friends, and influencers in your sphere. If you don’t allocate time to converse, you are missing the point.

Social media at its essence is social so to engage in social media and not allocate time to socializing, well, it’s antithetical to the very premise of social media.

Social media at its essence is socialClick To Tweet

Take Twitter, for example. It began as a texting platform. Sure, it’s matured, evolved, and changed. You can include images and video now, and you can even advertise. But at its essence, it’s still a medium for conveying messages.

This premise is true with other social media platforms as well.

Which takes me to those 3 basic rules of social media I promised to discuss.

3 Basic Rules of Social Media

  1.  Be a social butterfly, in the best sense possible. Social media was never designed to be a broadcast messaging system the way radio and television  are. Conversations are the backbone of social media and that is what distinguishes it and that is what has fueled its dominance in marketing. The beauty of social media for authors is that it allows you to converse with your readership in a manner that was never possible before Facebook was created. Indie authors have a powerful medium with which they can market their books, converse with their readers, answer questions in a matter of minutes, and further their relationships with their loyal readers, even though it’s all done virtually. Don’t attempt to be the prom queen; strive to always be authentic and to care about others.
  2. Play nicely. If you have a friend who posts cute kitten photos ad nauseam, don’t leave a sarcastic remark; ignore them and leave a comment when she later posts substantive information that you like. There are examples everyday of people resorting to name-calling and blasphemy on Facebook and other networks. Someone once called me a phony on Twitter. I didn’t block him or reply with a nasty note. I merely moved on to the next message, a friendly one from a reader.
  3. Ignore some people. You aren’t going to like all the messages that you read on social media networks and you may even find some to be obscene or not aligned with your political views. There were plenty of political posts during the recent presidential election. It’s best to not react negatively and to instead set an admirable example. In other words, ignore the negative politics or statements you don’t agree with. Always strive to be sincere, generous, and tolerant.
Don't attempt to be the prom queen; be authentic on social mediaClick To Tweet

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Tips for Being Social

When people first hear that they need 30 minutes a day to be effective on social media, they usually complain, “But I don’t have an extra 30 minutes in my day.”

That isn’t entirely true.

Yes, these days we have more items on our to-do lists than we can possibly accomplish in a day. However, we can take just 15 minutes in the morning to curate, write and schedule our posts. All that’s needed in the afternoon is another 10 – 15 minutes to check your newsfeeds, Like your friends’ Facebook posts, leave an occasional comment, retweet and reply to your readers’ messages, and review your LinkedIn and Google+ newsfeeds. Use the applications, such as ManageFlitter, to unfollow users and kill off bots, and spam and fake accounts. Look through your newsfeeds to be social.

Always strive to be sincere, generous, and tolerant Click To Tweet

You can do this on a mobile device while watching a movie at home, waiting at your doctor’s office, letting the color set on your hair at your stylist’s salon, waiting for a friend to arrive at a coffee shop, or while standing in line at Costco. Whether you have an iPad, iPhone, Android or other device, you can socialize online whenever you have some idle time. If you don’t have idle time, then it’s important to schedule some in.

Maybe you’re the type of person who needs to schedule the time into your day. A perfect time might be 4 or 4:30 pm, when your energy is waning. Take a break from your regular work, go online, and interact with your readers.

Social media is all about nurturing relationships. Did someone retweet one of your messages? Find a tweet that they wrote that you like and return the favor. Send a note of thanks to all of your retweeters too.

Social media is all about nurturing relationshipsClick To Tweet

Is there an agent or editor on LinkedIn with whom you’d like to connect but can’t because they are a 3rd degree connection? Ask a friend to introduce you. Did a colleague just publish a new book? Let your friends and connections know about it. Socializing on social media involves these three steps: meet, connect, and repeat. You are constantly meeting new people, connecting with them, and then repeating the process with someone else. Be friendly, be positive, and be open to meeting new people.heart in a fence

5 Best Practices

  1. Don’t engage with people who send you negative messages. Take a keep breath, move on to another task, and forget about them.
  2. You will inevitably receive invitations to play Farmville, Scrabble and other online games. Unless you find these games relaxing, you won’t want to use these diversions because they tend to consume your time that you could instead use connecting with your Facebook friends or writing your next book.
  3. Do you feel pressured to use every social media network available to you? Don’t fall for that trap.  If you don’t have the time to manage LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest, Tumblr, Instagram and RebelMouse, determine which platforms best enable you to connect with your readers. In order not to become lost in the time suck, you will need to learn how to manage your time. Maybe you don’t have the time to schedule more than 4 tweets daily. Don’t worry. You don’t need to maximize your efforts on every social media network. Use the ones where you are most likely to encounter your readers.
  4. It can be difficult for new authors to think of themselves as a brand but you are and your readers are watching you. Keep your messaging consistent. If you write about traveling abroad on $30/day, give tips throughout the year. If your novel takes place in Italy, pin some of your travel photos from Rome, Venice and Milan. If you wrote a novel about a single mom, post information about single mothers, women entrepreneurs and maybe efforts to penetrate the glass ceiling. If you wrote a cookbook, share recipes and photographs of your latest creations.
  5. Don’t use your book jacket as your avatar. People want to see the face behind the book so put on some blush, brush your hair, and smile for the camera.

 

Frances CaballoAuthor of this blogFrances Caballo is an author and social media strategist and manager for writers. She’s a regular speaker at the San Francisco Writers Conference. In addition, she’s a contributing writer at TheBookDesigner.com, and blogger and Social Media Expert for BookWorks. She’s written several social media books including the 2nd edition of Social Media Just for Writers and The Author’s Guide to Goodreads. Her focus is on helping authors surmount the barriers that keep them from flourishing online, building their platform, finding new readers, and selling more books. Her clients include authors of every genre and writers’ conferences. Not sure how you’re doing online? Sign up for my free email course.

Practical tips for marketing your books on the social web

 

Join me for the next Conversations with Frances when I’ll interview Chris Well of Build Your Brand Academy. Chris will teach you how and when to contact the media, how to build a media kit, and how to build a brand as an author. Bring your questions, goo. Register for the webinar by clicking here.

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Comments

  1. Great tips! Especially the part about ignoring some people. Getting into an online argument is an exercise in futility. And the bystanders (your potential readers) are going to be turned off.

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